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The man paying on dates, the first date especially, has been a long held tradition steeped in chivalry, the fact that women didn't have jobs in some cases (we're talking way back in the day), and a bit of sexism, too. Since the Women's Right Movement kicked up the long-lying, archaic dust off the ground, one of the big questions, when it comes to dating, is: Should the guy pay?Honestly, are there women out there who will go out with a guy just for the free drinks? But if a guy really expects that he can spend money on a woman and she'll keep going out with him, or that he ‘deserves’ something from her, that's f'ed up," says Diana, 36.You just don't show up to a date expecting a free meal; you just don't."I think it shouldn't be assumed that he is going to pay.It's really about the courtesy of the guy paying on the first date, and the tacit mutuality of back-and-forth paying after that.I've seen some absolute RANTS from guys online about women just going out with them for the free meal — this is on their DATING PROFILES, by the way — and that the woman should expect to pay for her own drinks.
I'm not gonna say it's a dealbreaker, but I pretty much look at him like he's a cheapskate. If the guy pays on date #1 and we agree to go out again, it's 99.9 percent guaranteed that I'll pick up the check on date #2.(Since I've been married it's just whoever's wallet is easier at hand.) I like getting free stuff as much as the next person and will never argue about the check with my expense-account-toting boss.